Adoption Lamaze

 

My kids are most certainly siblings....

 "Without oxygen...your brain doesn't work properly," a close friend reminded me via text this week. Earlier that day our new friend we will call "the hair dresser" stated that she wanted to write a book entitled "Lamaze for Adopting Parents" as she reflected on all the deep breathing she found herself doing throughout their journey into adoption. All this talk about breathing and functioning. The last few days have been challenging to say the least. There are moments when my brain has not been working. Where perspective has been lost. Where I might have been served well by a little "adoption lamaze".

No citizenship......deep breath
No passport application filed yet......deep breath

....they are even starting to smile that same goofy smile.

Not able to use flight credit to get home.....deep breath
Need to purchase new one way flights.....deep breath
Two more weeks in South Africa.....deep breath

Today is the day we were supposed to start our journey home....about now in fact. Instead, we are here...most of my family sleeping away this rainy South African afternoon...and I am working on processing our new reality for the next couple weeks. We will be here until August 8th. We did, in fact, need to purchase new one way flights home. We will not have as much time to transition to our home life with Tim as we had planned. It's going to be ok regardless. Deep breath.

In the throws of distress some people experience "breath holding". Admittedly I sometimes experience "prayer holding". As though when I need it the most...the breathing and the praying...I forget, get distracted....lose perspective.....and my "brain" stops working. Thank you for the many people this week who have prayed for us, offered that lost perspective, been our brains. We know in our hearts that two weeks is but a blink.....money is but a tool to be used....our papers will arrive....we will come home. Sometimes it is just hard to remember.